Hey there! 👋
I had three back-to-back video calls yesterday. By the end of the day, I felt like I’d been hit by a truck. Not physically tired—mentally drained in that specific way that only comes from staring at screens full of faces for hours.
Sound familiar?
I used to think I was just being dramatic. “It’s just sitting and talking,” I’d tell myself. “How hard can it be?”
Turns out, pretty hard.
What I Learned About This Weird Exhaustion 🧠
I did some digging. I also carried out a lot of personal experimentation. I discovered that Zoom fatigue isn’t just “in our heads.” There’s real science behind why video calls feel so much more draining than in-person meetings.
The culprit? Our brains are working overtime to process things that should be effortless. We’re constantly trying to read facial expressions through pixelated screens, managing the cognitive load of seeing ourselves (hello, self-consciousness!), and dealing with tiny audio delays that throw off our natural conversation rhythm.
It’s like having a conversation while doing mental gymnastics. No wonder we’re exhausted.
Here’s What Actually Works to Beat It
I’ve tested a bunch of strategies over the past few months, and these four have made the biggest difference:
1. The “Audio-Only” Rule
For every third meeting, I suggest we go audio-only. “Let’s just talk while we walk around or grab coffee,” I’ll say. The pushback is usually minimal, and the relief is immediate. I found out by mistake as my wifi was lagging, and I asked permission to turn off my camera to improve its quality. Others joined in and viola! instant stress relief. Now I will ask permission at the beginning of the meeting to leave my camera off. I’ll make a joke about being shy. But you do what you feel comfortable with.
2. The 25-Minute Meeting
Instead of defaulting to 30-minute blocks, I started scheduling 25-minute meetings. Those extra 5 minutes between calls are a game-changer—enough time to stand up, stretch, and mentally reset.
3. Hide Self-View (Seriously)
This one felt weird at first, but hiding your own video feed eliminates about 40% of the mental strain. Right-click your face and select “Hide Self View.” You’ll still be visible to others, but you won’t be constantly monitoring your own appearance.
4. The “20-20-20” Recovery
Every 20 minutes during long calls, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This trick I learned during my 911 days when I had to work 16 hr shifts. It sounds simple, but it gives your eyes and brain a micro-break from the screen intensity.
Your Challenge This Week 💪
Pick ONE of these strategies and commit to trying it for the next five days. Just one. See how it feels.
I’m curious—which one resonates with you most? And if you’ve discovered your own tricks for managing video call burnout, I’d love to hear them.
Hit reply and let me know what you’re going to try. I read every response, and honestly, your insights often spark my best newsletter ideas.
Talk soon, Tim.
P.S. If you’re feeling brave, try the audio-only suggestion in your next team meeting. You might be surprised how much more engaged everyone becomes when they’re not worried about their camera angle.







