Are You Stuck in Survival Mode? Here’s the Secret to Breaking Free
Hey friend,
Lately, I’ve been hit with that familiar sense of being overwhelmed—like there’s just too much coming at me from all directions. Maybe it’s too many hours scrolling social media (guilty 🙋). It might be the nonstop barrage of headlines about the Government/economy. Or perhaps it’s just realizing I haven’t made time to get outside and breathe fresh air. It’s like the pressure keeps building, and I can feel it taking a toll on my mood and energy. Sometimes, it’s hard to tell what’s weighing me down most—but I know that something’s got to give.
Why Trying to “Just Calm Down” Doesn’t Work
Here’s the punchline: Stress isn’t just in your head, and you can’t outthink your way to calm. Our bodies were built to survive lions, not daunting inboxes or family arguments. But in the modern world, nobody tells your nervous system the threat is over. So you just… stay wired, even when you’re “done” for the day.
Three Moves That Actually Finish Your Stress Cycle
Let’s get practical. These are my go-tos now—they sound simple, but they truly work:
1. Move Your Body (Even Just a Little!)
A brisk walk, dancing around your living room, ten minutes of yoga. Physical activity tells your body, “Hey, we’re safe now.” It truly is the reset button. Most days after work, I take a short hike around the block. Sometimes, I grab my wife and get out after supper for an hour. Sometimes I will cut the grass on my lunch hour even if it doesn’t really need it.
2. Breathe Like You Mean It
Deep, slow breaths. I like the 4-7-8 method. These breaths signal your nervous system that it’s okay to shift gears. It’s free, takes 60 seconds, and it works. In through the nose, out through the mouth.
3. Real Connection
Text a friend, give your dog a belly rub, share a hug that lasts longer than usual. Positive social contact does wonders—don’t underestimate the power of being truly seen.
And bonus points if you can laugh or cry. (Seriously. That’s science-backed.) I am not ashamed to cry in front of my kids. No, seriously, ask them
My Favorite Mindset Shift: Rest Is a Necessity, Not a Treat
The biggest lesson? Rest isn’t a reward for when you’ve done enough. It’s fuel for staying human. You’re allowed boundaries. You’re allowed to say no. And yes, self-care isn’t selfish—it protects your ability to give, create, and love. That’s one of the reasons behind this blog, ✍️ helps me to relax.
Your Challenge: Stress Cycle Check-In
Here’s what I want you to try this week:
- Choose one of the stress cycle finishers above. It could be movement, breathing, or connection. Incorporate it into your daily routine. Do this especially after facing something stressful.
- Notice if you feel a shift (even just a small one).
- What stress cycle practice most resonates with you right now?
You deserve more than just making it through. Let’s get better at this—together.
Cheering you on, Tim
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